The Venn Diagram of Compatibility

When you meet someone on an online dating site you are looking for compatibility. The problem is the most of the things listed on people’s profiles are things like the kinds of movies they like or what kind of food they like. These are in response to question prompts on the site. While it’s nice to share tastes with someone, that’s not what really matters. How do your values align? What are the things that are important to you? When you meet the right person it is all about wanting to listen to what they have to say, not whether you share that interest. They also need to want to hear what you want to share as well.